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Hope

  • Posted on January 18, 2012 at 12:48 pm

“I dare not cease to hope and aspire and believe in human love and justice …”

– Fannie Barrier Williams
1855-March 4, 1944)

I have spent most of my life “hoping” one thing or another would happen.

I think it started when I was in high school and I began to hope I would get out of the town I grew up in safely and to be able to start my life on my own terms.

I hoped I could get through my first marriage to a man who was in Viet Nam, thinking every day he might not come hope.

Then I hoped I could get out of the marriage without too many emotional scars.

I hoped I would be able to stay single for five years and not have anyone distract me. Then I hoped I wasn’t making a bad decision when I agreed to marry my second husband.

I hoped I could find the strength to end that marriage and not have him talk me into going back to him.

I hoped my brother would survive his colon cancer and and HIV.

And now I hope to build a school for kids at risk as a legacy for my brother. The school will be in Belize and I will start with 300 boys who are currently living on the streets. It will be a 3-year high school program. Eventually there will be 3,000 boys and a girls school to match.

Hope is the foundation for all who aspire to dream bigger than they are.

Love

  • Posted on April 10, 2011 at 3:26 am

“In nine cases out of ten, a woman had better show more affection than she feels.”

Jane Austen (1775 – 1817)

Jane AustenA long time ago I believed in love that would last a life time. One love, one man, a long life together.

Then I got married and it only lasted five years. I was devastated to think I had to get a divorce. I was raised Catholic and divorce was not an option in my family. But that is exactly what I opted to do.

I chose to remove myself from a volatile situation. It was worse than volatile, it was destructive and yet it was supposed to be love.

The I met my second husband five years later and he opened up a whole new world for me. He guided me through major growth. He helped me discover who I was and the depth of what I had to offer. He was an amazing influence in my life. He made me look at myself in the mirror and see that I truly do have something to offer.

That also lasted five years. It was an amazing time for me, but it was also stifling. He wanted to dictate what I would become and after a few years I knew I couldn’t live my life according to someone else’s expectations.

Love, what does it entail? Expectations, sacrifice, dedication, patience . . . yes, but also, the freedom to be who we truly are.