In my sex fantasy, nobody ever loves me for my mind.
– Nora Ephro (1941)
When it comes to sex, I still think of myself as a young woman. I was often pursued, but rarely noticed for my intelligence. I have to say it’s a rare man indeed who has the capacity to be attracted to a woman sexually because of her wit and intelligence.
It is far more typical to be attracted to another because of their physical beauty. I am guilty of falling many times for a man’s exterior impression and I’m sure that is human nature.
But the most gratifying relationships I have ever had has been the one time where I did not notice his physical attributes because I was so enamored by his sparkling personality. Even years later I think with great fondness how very fortunate I was to have had the experience as it was a similarly mutual attraction for each of us.