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  • Posted on January 18, 2012 at 12:48 pm

“I dare not cease to hope and aspire and believe in human love and justice …”

– Fannie Barrier Williams
1855-March 4, 1944)

I have spent most of my life “hoping” one thing or another would happen.

I think it started when I was in high school and I began to hope I would get out of the town I grew up in safely and to be able to start my life on my own terms.

I hoped I could get through my first marriage to a man who was in Viet Nam, thinking every day he might not come hope.

Then I hoped I could get out of the marriage without too many emotional scars.

I hoped I would be able to stay single for five years and not have anyone distract me. Then I hoped I wasn’t making a bad decision when I agreed to marry my second husband.

I hoped I could find the strength to end that marriage and not have him talk me into going back to him.

I hoped my brother would survive his colon cancer and and HIV.

And now I hope to build a school for kids at risk as a legacy for my brother. The school will be in Belize and I will start with 300 boys who are currently living on the streets. It will be a 3-year high school program. Eventually there will be 3,000 boys and a girls school to match.

Hope is the foundation for all who aspire to dream bigger than they are.


  • Posted on January 4, 2012 at 8:55 am

“I am not afraid… I was born to do this.”

– Joan of Arc

I have often thought I could not do something or could not face something and yet when I finally acquired the nerve to go ahead and face it, it was not nearly as challenging as I thought it might be.

It took me a long time to realize I needed to just push through my fears and get going on whatever it was. If I was afraid to approach someone who had said something that might have hurt my feelings, I need to say it without emotion, without making them feel bad, but still saying that my feelings were hurt. Then I wouldn’t harbor negative emotions about them or the reason I felt hurt. I could just move on.

Since I discovered how much easier it is to just take care of things immediately I have been able to share the concept with others who have also felt apprehensive in stating how they have felt.

Having the courage to speak up and stand up for one self is important to the well being of each of us. It save a lot of anxiety and stress and creates better more in depth relationship skills as well.